The "N" to become an A-Player
Updated: Jul 15
N - "No", Say It When Required
Let's be honest here, how many times has it happened with you that you said yes to something even though your heart screamed aloud in disapproval? We all go through this in our professional as well as our personal life when we agree to something not because it's the right thing to do or that we want to do it but due to societal pressure, peer pressure at work or merely because we want to be accepted by the people around us. Imagine this, a friend asks you to lend them some money and now you're in a fix pulling your hair on how can you come up with the sweetest and most convincing excuse not to lend them money without of course being in an uncomfortable situation with them. If you fall under this category then you, my friend have successfully wasted some precious time and energy over something that could've been dealt with just by being honest. Let us try to exchange the list of lies with a polite honesty. I am sure it will be hard at the beginning but it'll sink in faster than you know and you can have a guilt-free sleep.
Psst! I'll let you in on a secret - Your friend is not buying your excuse no matter how convincing you think you sound and anything other than adhering to their request will get you in their negative spot.
It is okay to say no to a friend who invites you to attend a birthday party on a weekday when you know you have your office the next day.
It is absolutely fine to say no for a cigarette if you've quit smoking and meet some of your old smoke buddies.
The only way to get rid of the shackles is to realize that you have one and that you have the choice to free yourself from it.