The compassion lens!
This is Mr. Grumpy! We all have a minimum of one and some have multiple Mr. Grumpys in their life. How many times has it happened with you that you came across an angry person in your life and swore that you will never speak to them again or that they were such a jerk that you had to share your experience with someone else for them to hate them too or that you cursed them to fail in life or never grow because of their bitter nature?
Can you pause for a minute and think that perhaps there are psychological and social factors that gave him a waspish tongue? Would it be better if we were able to see what a person has endured in their life that shaped them the way they are? If you're against this idea and think that it will just make you more vulnerable to others then you have another thing coming. You, my friend, are sailing in the same boat of fear as many and the only way to break this chain is to show compassion towards one another.
Viktor E. Frankl, said in his book 'Man's Search For Meaning' that 'Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.' This space for many is almost inexistent that results in them reacting to bitterness in the same language as Mr. Grumpy here in our picture. But if you take a closer look at the person, you'll be able to see all their insecurities, their fear, lack of confidence that made them walk on this path.
One has to be resilient as well as persistent to try and show compassion towards someone who not only shows anger but also tends to push away anyone who tries to comfort them. These are the types that build a huge wall around them to stay protected, hide their pain, and trust me they are the ones with a dire need for compassion.
So next time when you see someone who displays characteristics of Mr. Grumpy, try to put on your compassion gears and see if there's any way you can help them heal.
Remember Buddha once said, "If you light a lamp for someone else, It will also brighten your path."
~ Anila Andezhath